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USA Hockey Zero Tolerance Policy

In an effort to make ice hockey a more desirable and rewarding experience for all participants, the USA Hockey Youth, Junior, and Senior Councils have instructed the Officiating Program to adhere to certain points of emphasis relating to sportsmanship. This campaign is designed to require all players, coaches, officials, team officials, and parents/spectators to maintain a sportsmanlike and educational atmosphere before, during, and after all USA Hockey-sanctioned games.

The game will be stopped by on-ice officials when parents/spectators displaying inappropriate and disruptive behavior interfere with other spectators or the game. The on-ice officials will identify violators to the coaches for the purpose of removing parents/spectators from the spectators viewing and game area. Once removed, play will resume. Lost time will not be replaced and violators may be subject to further disciplinary action by the local governing body. This inappropriate and disruptive behavior shall include:

• Use of obscene or vulgar language in a boisterous manner to anyone at any time
• Taunting of players, coaches, officials, or other spectators by means of baiting, ridiculing, threat of physical violence, or physical violence.
• Throwing of any object in the spectators viewing area, players bench, penalty box or on ice surface, directed in any manner as to create a safety hazard.

Six Things Parents Should Say to Their Player

For best results, parents should memorize and use the following:

Before the Game

• I love you.
• Good luck.
• Have fun.

After the Game

• I love you.
• It was great to see you play.
• What would you like to eat?

Volunteer

Every year, VAHA requests each family contributes to our program through volunteer hours. There is a tremendous workload and it has to be spread out to make our association a success. Opportunities include: Concession, coaches, managers, score/time keeper, penalty box attendent, and the list goes on and on. Feel free to ask any board member or league official about these volunteer opportunities.  Again, Volunteers are what makes our association so great.

Are You a Good Hockey Parent?

We realize that watching little loved ones scurry around the rink can occasionally be frustrating. But there should be limits on the manifestations of that frustration. If you take a look at the following questions and notice a bit of yourself in there, or if you answer yes to all of them, we ask that you kindly remove your name from running for hockey parent of the year. 

  • When your kids clean their plates, do you make Zamboni references?
  • Do you have a spreadsheet on your fridge with your child's statistics?
  • Do you cheer during warmups?
  • Do you keep your son or daughter's stats during warmups?
  • Do you keep your son or daughter's stats during practice? 
  • Is your mugshot on a bulletin board at your local rink above the words, "barred from entry"?
  • Did you bribe the rink manager to take it down?
  • Have you ever refused to remove your foot from a coach's neck until he threatens legal action? 
  • Have you tried to return your son or daughter's stick to the pro shop because it had "no goals in it"?
  • Have you tried to return your son or daughter's skates to the pro shop because "everyone seems faster"?
  • Did you contact NCAA scouts before your kid's 10th birthday?
  • Do you call your son or daughter by a different name -- like, say, Stone Hands -- depending on how well he or she plays?
  • Do you believe your kid shouldn't pass the puck ... ever?
  • Did you christen your child in a makeshift Stanley Cup?
  • On the day your child was born, did you work out the math on his draft-eligible year?
  • Do the candles on his cake correspond to the birth date or the years remaining "as an amateur"?
  • Did you wish your child's first word was the name of your favorite hockey team? 
  • Have you ever led a chant against a 10-year-old?
  • Do you include in your local youth hockey newsletter a section called "coaches on the hot seat"?
  • Do you refer to school days as "off days"?
  • Do you refer to game days as "what it's all about"?
  • Do you speak often in sports cliches?
  • Have you ever found yourself at center ice, without skates on, in street clothes, during a game, as the only non-official adult on the ice, uninvited, cursing at an official?